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It was one of those mornings. I was tired and I just wanted a smooth morning with no crying or whining. To have the ability to get these morning smoothies out to everyone in a peaceful, calm manner, Kerwin’s lunch to him and possibly sneak in a morning nap.

NOPE! That wasn’t the case. I had Nehemiah still passed out in bed as if he worked 3rd shift. He should be up.

Jeremiah was standing on one side of me watching as if I would forget he was there waiting for his smoothie.

Eli on my other side crying because he was impatiently waiting for me to finish the smoothies and pick him up.

I didn’t have a good night, so I was extremely tired and sleepy. Here I am, pregnant feeling achy and sore and waking up all throughout the night not because of that! but because for some odd reason Eli decided it was a great night to protest getting sleep.

The morning couldn’t get anymore nerve wrecking.

I WAS WRONG!

Kerwin decided to jump in on the fun. He was standing there looking at a trade he just took (he’s a forex trader). It seemed to not be going in his favor. This would be the third trade this week that would end badly, if this wouldn’t turn around.

He started giving in to discouragement and hopelessness. As the words of doubt, worry and hopelessness came out of his mouth, I immediately felt a wave of weakness come over me. I was just finishing his lunch at this point. I handed it to him.

“I need a min” I said as I walked out the kitchen and went towards the bedroom. I got back in bed to collect my thoughts and get myself together.

I asked for Eli because I knew Kerwin was having to get ready to go. He brought him to me as he leaving for the day. I honestly can’t remember if we even kissed each other bye. I was so over it.

I finally got myself together and sent him a text so when he got to work he would read it and be encouraged.

It didn’t work. As we were texting back and forth, I could tell he was out for the count it seemed. I pushed and pushed to encourage him in the Lord, but he wasn’t hearing it. He said he had to go, he was about to drive.

Now normally when this sort of thing would happen I would call and push further hoping something I would say will make an impact or the light bulb would go off. And as usual I would have to back off and let him and God work it out.

So today I said to myself, I’m not calling. I need to get my own strength back up. I’m not gonna have this pull on me all day. I’m going to go on with what I need to do which is REST and prepare for my morning Bible study with the boys.

As the boys and I read our book about praying to God, at the end it had the following scripture:

“Be anxious for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”
Philippians 4:6

And even though I was reading to them, it applied to me. It was my right now word. I don’t need to give myself a headache trying to make sure Kerwin is okay. I need to not be anxious over this. I need to do what this scripture said. Take this into prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let my request be made known to God.

I know what to do. I laid Eli down for his morning nap and went into prayer.

It was at this moment, it was obvious I was stronger in Spirit. I wasn’t down by discouragement and instead of getting aggravated that he was discouraged, I needed to go into warfare on his behalf.

He didn’t need me to talk him into feeling better. He needed me to go and pray over his mind and declare and speak to his spirit man. Let it go and go about my day.

As I sat, Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places” came to mind.

My fight was not with Kerwin or trying to convince him of anything, my fight was the spirit behind all of this and that is who I needed to go and confront. It was obvious by the way he was speaking, it wasn’t Kerwin, but the enemy speaking through Kerwin.

The Prayer

went something like this..

I begin by praying, thanking God for allowing me to see it for what it was and not to give in to discouragement myself.

I then declared the enemy to leave his mind. Allow Kerwin to see that this was the enemy . Remind him of your love Father. The thoughts of failure and hopeless was not of You Father. He feels abandoned, but allow him to remember that you will never leave him nor forsake him. Instead of having negative thoughts, Father I speak to Kerwin’s spirit to hear hope and prosperity. Where Kerwin hears God will not help in this area, remind him that You supply all our needs according to Your riches and glory in Christ Jesus.

3 John 1:2 says Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.

You delight in our prosperity not our lack. Take back every thought that come to exalt itself against the knowledge of God .

I prayed the Word of God.

And guess what? Afterwards, I felt better and was able to release it. Not only that, God allowed me to get some sleep after because I was really sleepy, but I needed to press through on my husband’s behalf because it affects our family. My husband needed me. I’m not sure how long I slept, but I woke up refreshed and no longer tired.

I guess God is still showing me that when we put Him first He will take care of our needs.

Now I can resume my day. I trust that as I’m going about my day and Kerwin his, God is doing a work. And once we talk again there will be a difference. Either way God is in control.

I want to encourage you if and when your husband’s mind or even yours is under attack, remind yourself and the enemy who is in control.

Does your husband go through battles of the mind? When these episodes happen, how do you deal?

Is fighting in the spirit something you need to work on?
Share your thoughts! Let’s encourage one another.

It’s Father’s day! I’m so excited because it’s an extra day I get to honor and celebrate my husband for being the great father he is and continues to become.

But not only did I want to honor my husband, Kerwin, I thought of my own father, brother, and father-in-law. Each special and unique in their own right. They have each taught me something along the way, so as I honor my Kerwin in this post, I will mention what each of these men have taught me and how I appreciate them!

My Dad

As a child I witnessed my dad struggle with a lot of demons and there were times when we didn’t have the best relationship. I was even angry with him, but as I got older, I begin to see that he is a mere man that is not perfect, no matter how much we expect our parents to be. It was through this revelation that I was able to see past the flaws and see the good, developing what is the great relationship that we have today.

He teaches me faith and perseverance. I have seen him knocked down too many times to count, but he always bounces back standing strong in faith. He never really complains, he just takes a licking and keep ticking believing God all the way to see him through. He teaches me no matter how bad it gets, keep going in the faith. Keep pressing, praying and waiting on God.

One thing I have always admired is that he never stays mad for long. Someone could make him mad and next thing I know he is okay and goes on as if it never happened.

It is also through him that I have inherited the gift of entrepreneurship. My dad is brilliant and has the ability to help people in startup businesses.
He always thought of me as an entrepreneur even when I didn’t see it. But over the past few years it has come upon me to become one and I know it is from him.

Okay, okay… I know I said I would mention one thing, but I couldn’t help myself LOL.
Happy Father’s Day Daddy, Love You !!

My Brother

My brother is such a goofball, but since I became married, I have admired his efforts on being a good father. I have learned through him and Kerwin the importance of masculinity and manhood.

The importance of giving men their space to raise and father their sons. That was something I never knew was of deep importance until I heard it from them.

I also admire his boldness. He is pretty fearless. If you follow him on social media, you would know what I mean LOL.
He has a natural “I don’t care what they think” attitude.
I’m trying to get to that point. I will keep studying him along with lots of prayer.

My Father-in-law

I won’t post a picture of him, because he’s top secret like that. Actually, he doesn’t like his pictures online and that I can respect especially these days.

Just imagine the Superman image because my husband and I call him that base off an insider joke. But, I do see that my husband really does look up to his father as the superman that he is.

I admire their relationship and even though my father-in-law doesn’t consider himself a Christian religious type person, he raised a godly man. I appreciate the masculinity he instills in his sons and equipped them to the best of his abilities to be heads of their families.

He truly has become a second father to me that I have been able to go to when needed, and I appreciate that!

Last, but certainly not least…

My husband, Kerwin

Never did I imagine the relationship that God has blessed Kerwin and I to have. God has truly blessed me with such a man. He really is my best friend and I wouldn’t know what to do without him.

His patience can’t be beat. The love he has for those around him can’t be compared. He has taught me so much during our years together. I certainly would not be the woman I am today had it not been for him.

He teaches me to relax and slow down. He is a more slow pace person than I am. It balances out, but there are a LOT of times when I really do need to pace myself. How many times, have I had to come back and say to him, “I am so glad I waited to do…”

I get very tense and nervous quickly, but he keeps me calm and I am glad I can look at him during hard times and see he is still standing strong and not in a panic. It keeps me at peace.

He has gently taught me how to be his help meet, just chill in the passenger side and not feel the need to take control over a situation.
I have learned through him a beautiful lesson that God comes and shows up in many different ways that we can least expect it and not always understand right away.

He has taught me the importance of being a godly supportive wife. He’s been a wonderful example of leaving and cleaving to his wife and family and teaches me to establish healthy boundaries.

I appreciate and love how he takes actual time to play with our boys to the point where he is just completely worn out, but laughing and enjoying the whole time.
I love to see the boys crawl up on him and sit in his lap while he’s studying or watching t.v.
And it’s cute that he enjoys waking up every Sunday morning to make pancakes all because he knows our oldest, Nehemiah looks forward to it.

I also love to see his interaction with Nehemiah as he preps him in little ways to become the man that our little guy will eventually be.

I appreciate how he works hard for our family, yet is not afraid to come home and help me when he sees I need the extra assistance.

These are some of the things that come to mind. I could go on. I have much to be thankful for.

I believe that’s why it pains me to see Father’s Day underrated and even disrespected by some.

My father, brother, father-in law and husband are not perfect. Far from it. But I believe we should take the time to acknowledge what good there is and appreciate it.

There are some men out there that are truly deadbeats. It’s unfortunate because they are missing out on one of life’s greatest gifts, being a father and raising the families they have created.

For those of you that have fathers and husbands who are around doing their best in this crazy world, acknowledge and honor them! Shower them in love. It’s hard out here. Take some time today to celebrate!!

How will you be celebrating Father’s Day??